WHAT'S ATTRACTIVE? ARE YOU TOO PICKY?

If you are actively swimming in the “dating pool” looking for your soul mate or just a few no strings attached casual social dates, you will probably agree that physical attraction is  fairly important.  After all, being seen out and about with an “UGGO” could reflect badly on you, should someone from, say,  your workplace happen to see you.
In a world of media and advertising it is possible that constant exposure to young, too thin, super sexy models has made us a little bit shallow and too picky?  Looks certainly aren’t everything, and beauty can be more than on the surface.  If your dating site says you share much compatibility, with someone, don’t avoid checking them out -- even if they are not exactly gorgeous.
Maybe we should examine our own requirements and expectations of who qualifies as attractive.  In an earlier blog, I mentioned the importance of having a good profile photograph, because if you are not photogenic, you could be thrown out of consideration, based on looks.
If your picture is shot from the viewpoint of your pot belly in the foreground, and a telephone pole growing out of your head, PLEASE do yourself a favor and get another picture to put up on your profile!  If your picture is too casual, taken while you were sitting around in lumpy sweats in need of a haircut, pull that picture.  Even if you believe it reflects how you pretty much look most of the time, think of your profile picture as a SPECIAL Occasion.  It will say,” I think searching for romance is worth getting fixed up for.” to the person browsing your profile.
Most of us have seen or know someone who is totally off base in their demands.  A fat, balding past middle aged man who makes insulting remarks because a woman is a few pounds heavier than before she had 3 kids.  Yet he can’t understand why no 25 year old “hotties” will go out with him.  Or a woman who is perfectly satisfied to be 60 pounds overweight, dumping the guy who took her out to a restaurant of her choice when she noticed his large bald spot.
Back when personals ads in print form were being pioneered, I was talking to a guy who had responded to my ad.  We both agreed talking on the phone a few times was a good way to get to know each other, to decide if we wanted to meet.   There were no photos to peruse, just several hour long conversations, where we matched wits, laughed, and flirted.  We agreed to meet for dinner.  When I first got a look at him, he was at least 20 years older than I expected, but not someone I would have considered for a date.  He was a fascinating man who had seen the most remote parts of the world,  who’s manners were impeccable with a great sense of humor. I never regretted getting “tricked” into going out with him.
Finding the right someone can be so elusive, so don’t place limitations on who you will consider.  It may keep love from finding you.